Here is my soap box:
I keep telling people who ask, 'so how many kids are you going to have?' or 'Is this going to be the last?' anything like that. So I tell them I think this will be the last, or I think three, but we will see what happens. Then they always say... 'You are ONLY going to have three?' um only? ONLY? When it comes to M&Ms three is only, when it comes to kids three is not only. Enough people have said stuff that it makes me feel like they think I am less of a mother then someone who can wants to or who has four or five. Maybe I am just smarter, I know when I reach my limit and weather or not I am baby hungry I can make the best choice for my kids, my marriage and me. Maybe everyone is just different, some are moms of two, some five, and some are step moms, some are neighborhood moms, we all are different. I don't think I could be a step mom, but people do it, I also don't think I could handle (well) more then three kids. If you can then good for you, but that doesn't have anything to do with me. Also I am not guarantying that I am not going to have more then three, I am just saying that is what I am planning on, maybe there are more up there for me and I will know that later, maybe not, but if you are going to ask me how many kids I am planning to have I am going to say three, and I would appreciate it if you did not respond with ONLY three.
Okay there I am off my soap box, thank you all for listening. :-)
Amen Hays! I feel the same way.
ReplyDeleteI am the SAME! I want 3.. and its not ONLY! its whats best for my life and my familia!!
ReplyDeleteYou know, Halley, that in a wider context (that is, from my experience in the rest of the US... I don't know about outside our country) you would likely get more of a reaction over having THAT MANY (that is, three... as opposed to one or two.)
ReplyDeleteBut honestly, it is no one else's business and I would consider it a rude question, myself.
Outside the US (well, at least in Peru and Europe) it is the same, meaning thinking three is a lot. When we went to Peru in Dec everyone kept saying "You have one of each so you are done, right?" They were surprised when I said I didn't think I was. But here in utah it isn't the same, and after hearing it so much it gets old fast.
ReplyDeletewell we have ONLY three kids too. When people ask me when/if i am having more ( i get a lot of this at church lately since arthur is turning 2 now) i tell them that if i ever feel like i have a good handle on these three then i will think about it. so far i am overwhelmed with what i got! plus with all four of my boys i always felt really strongly that i should be pregnant. I was extremly baby hungry too! I dont feel like that at all now, so why get pregnant? the ONLY reason i even think about it sometimes is i still want that girl.. but if we did try for that it wouldnt be anytime soon!
ReplyDeleteMy mom had "only" two. She always got questions about it. I remember telling people when I was younger (especially in our church) that I only have one brother and they were shocked. Quite honestly, its rude. My mom tried to have more. I was quite a surprise. They thought they just weren't meant to have any more. So hurtful people can be. Ironically, when I tell people I may have one more after this, they're always shocked (What with my issues and all!). The last person that dared to comment probably won't ever again. I told her, "Honestly I fear the Lord a lot more than I fear you so I'm going to follow what He wants me to do." Seriously people, its not your business! Ask me as a sister because you genuinely want to know (like you're thinking of having more and want to make sure you're not loosing it) ... fine, but if there's some ONLY or NO MORE clause, just take your opinion and shove it. I appreciate your rant. Hopefully you don't mind mine.
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